I know that for every family and every individual, the choice to be a caregiver is different. Whether you’re talking about being a caregiver for a loved one, or a stranger, it’s a decision that can impact the rest of your life. I chose to be a caregiver for my grandmother rather than hire in home care services for personal reasons, and they might be different than other people’s reasons, but I want people to know them, all the same. I figure that if I can share my reasons, it could help someone else determine whether they want to do the same, or whether they would benefit by hiring in home health care services instead.
First of all, I’m 28, single, and have no children. My job is, to put it mildly, uninspiring. I guess that I expected that I would be married with children at this point in my life, and didn’t think much about a career. I just hadn’t met the right man yet, so when my grandmother’s health deteriorated to a point, and my mother and I worried about her living alone, we both knew that she needed, and deserved someone with her, to help with whatever she needed.
I took on this role, because I figure that I could move in with her, save some money on rent, and get closer to a woman I didn’t really appreciate enough when I was growing up. I believed that by being together more, living together, we could form a stronger bond over time.
It worked, but it wasn’t without its problems. What I learned about my grandmother was that she is stubborn and strong willed. She can also be quite nasty when she thinks that someone is trying to help her too much. There’s a balance that needs to be understood when someone is an in home care provider to a family member, or anyone else for that matter.
I learned to give her the space that she wanted, when she wanted it, and she learned to accept my help, even though she thought that she could do just fine on her own. In time, our relationship grew stronger, and I found my true calling in life. I chose to be my grandmother’s family caregiver over having to hire home care services, and for me, it was the right decision. I would just say that if you’re not ready to commit to being there for your loved one when they need you, as often as they need you, and you’re not willing to learn how to help them the best way possible, you should consider home health care services instead.
Home care professionals at Comfort Keepers are available to talk with you about your in-home care needs including how to reduce caregiver stress while providing better, affordable care. We are an elderly care agency providing home care in Desoto County MS, For more information about home care services, call us at (901) 308-4308.